Although male sexual difficulties seem to receive more attention, women’s sexual dysfunction may be just as widespread. But there are natural ways for women to deal with sexual problems.
There are many causes for inhibited sexual desire, as well as inability to achieve orgasm for a woman. These physical and hormonal causes for lack of sex drive and/or orgasm failure include:
- Arthritis or chronic pain, urinary diseases, chronic bowel problems, pelvic surgery, headaches, multiple sclerosis.
- Substance abuse (alcohol, marijuana, narcotics, amphetamines, barbiturates and cocaine).
- Medications such as diuretics, antihypertensive, antidepressant, anti-anxiety, anti-epileptic, antihistamines, muscle relaxants and some chemotherapy drugs.
- Low testosterone, progesterone or DHEA levels.
- Low estrogen and menopause, which typically cause thinner labial skin, reduced sensitivity of the clitoris, thinner and less elastic vaginal lining and decreased lubrication. These can lead to painful intercourse (dyspareunia).
However, for most women with sexual dysfunction, the larger sexual organ (the brain) plays an important role. Thought patterns strongly influence one’s sex life.
Maybe it is time to get honest with yourself about how you are feeling. When there are no obvious physical causes for sexual problems and you’ve looked into hormone levels with a doctor who knows how to interpret these levels (most doctors are not aware that the optimal levels of testosterone, progesterone and estrogen are much higher than the supposed normal reference ranges indicate), then it is time to look inward at your feelings.
How do you treat your companion? How does your companion treat you? Are there loving words, non-sexual touches and endearing actions throughout the day? How about little messages saying you are thinking about him? Do you help create sexual desire in your companion?
Even when you may not be at your peak of physical attraction, you can be attractive in these other ways and, at the same time, you can then begin to discover your sexual energy. It is this sexual energy that inspires a fulfilling sex life.
But if you’ve created a life full of stress with tasks, children, work, worries or fears, then it is time to stop and shift your energy and time toward your passion. This can be the sexual passion you desire.
Dancing With The Senses
One of my favorite authors explains this feminine sexual energy as she describes the sensual dance that attracts masculine energy:
I express this dance in the gentle swing of my hips while I walk, instead of the rigid marches or aimless plops of my feet. I express this dance in the way I glance at him, with seductive, confident eyes — instead of eyes of judgment, criticism or expectation.
I express this throughout my day as I move as a gentle breeze, here and there, back and forth, using the current to shape my movements, instead of angular, sharp and unyielding.
I express this dance in the gracefulness of all mannerisms. The velvet creaminess of my voice, the roundness of my hand gestures, the slowness in my fast life.
This is true grace, femininity and sexiness. A woman must turn herself on before she can turn on anyone else. Are you turned on?
(God’s Love Poems, by Cali Cutler, 2010, p.59-60).
To assist you in creating a sexually inviting relationship, take a look at some aphrodisiac herbal preparations. They include combinations of herbs and natural supplements such as
- Ashwagandha: Ayurvedic herb that relaxes the central nervous system.
- L-arginine: The amino acid that triggers nitric oxide for vasodilation.
- Black cohosh: Used to treat menopausal symptoms.
- Capsicum pepper: Antioxidant used to treat chronic pain.
- Damiana: Traditional stimulant and aphrodisiac.
- Dulacia inopiflora: Popular in Brazil as a stimulant and aphrodisiac.
- Horny goat weed: Traditionally used to boost libido.
- Maca: South American herb used to boost endurance and libido.
- Tribulus terrestris: Hormone booster reputed to increase fertility and desire.
- Hops extract: Aids in relaxation.
- Mucuna pruriens: Tropical herb used as an aphrodisiac.
- Sarsaparilla: Traditionally used as a blood purifier and for sexual rejuvenation.
Many natural female sexual enhancers are available. Just make sure you purchase your herbs from a reputable source.
Hope this helps you to a more enjoyable companionship.